First of all, what IS a Qi Vampire? Well, to put it simply, "Qi" (pronounced: Chi) is Chinese for "life force," and we're all well aware of what vampires are, right? So a Qi Vampire is someone who causes you to feel like they have sucked that life force right out of you, leaving you drained after you've been in their presence. This is the "friend" that calls you with a new drama every week, and keeps you on the phone talking about all her problems, inviting them to be your problems by default. This is the person who is so down on life that they seem to be stuck in a constant rut, perhaps unaware that their limitations are self-imposed. This may even be someone you love dearly but just can't seem to get it together, and rather than respectfully walk out of your life, he or she chooses to be a victim and desires you to cater to them. They make you feel sorry for them, they guilt you, they may even abuse you. I'm betting a mental image of someone specific just popped in your mind! We have all known them. But it is our personal choice whether to continue to keep them in our lives.
And why do we want these Qi Vampires out of our lives? Because they really do more harm than good, no matter what excuses you provide for them to continue to suck you dry. Someone else's problems are NOT your problems, and you shouldn't make them so. Qi Vampires are notorious for wanting to unload on other people, for someone to share the burden they carry. While this may seem like a natural form of relief, it does nothing beneficial for your own energy, and will lower your energy vibration, bringing you down a level (or more), and inviting the same tensions, anxieties, stresses, and problems into your own life.
The first step in ridding yourself of a Qi Vampire is to FORGIVE them. They may not know what they do to you, but regardless, it is your responsibility to clear your own vibration of that negative energy. The great part is that they don't even have to know you are forgiving them; this can be a private matter. One of my own favorite ways of practicing forgiveness is to write a letter to that person, describing all of the emotions I am feeling about a situation the person has put me in. The idea is to let it all out in this letter, and not to censor yourself, because the person will never be reading it anyway. When the letter is finished, you sign it at the bottom, "Forgiven and Released!" and then you burn it. Watching it burn and turn to ash is a physical manifestation of your emotional processing. You should feel good as it burns, because you are releasing that energy into the Universe and getting it off your back. It's done now, and you are declaring to the Universe that you refuse to let this person/situation harm you any longer.
The second step in ridding yourself of Qi Vampires is to walk away from them. So you really have two choices: the first is to explain to that Qi Vampire that you are focusing on improving your life and cannot afford to be involved in negative situations, even if that means only listening to negative things. This might cause you to feel like you're abandoning this person, but what you're really doing is forcing them to feed on someone else, or take the high road and fix their issues rather than spread the energy to innocent bystanders. Either way, it's again, not your problem. The second choice is just to simply distance yourself from the Qi Vampire, becoming unavailable for meetings or chats on the phone, and eventually they'll get the hint that you are no longer available as a feeding post. It's natural to feel guilty about walking away from somebody you care about. You are conditioned to feel guilty about leaving someone you feel you can help. Here's the kicker, though: you are actually helping them more by walking away from them, because there's a greater chance they will work on their issues rather than despair in them. What's more important, though, is that you recognize the priority of cherishing your own well being over theirs. Qi Vampires have no clear sense of how their problems affect other people. They don't care how their feedings take away your vital energy, your time and attention away from yourself and your family. So why should you regard their needs as greater than your own? There is a huge difference between people truly in need of your assistance and people who take advantage of their host as a constant feeding source (coming to you to get their "fix").
Forgiveness is essential to growth, for it is only harming the person who holds that negative energy within, but forgiveness is not attached to obligation. You are not obligated to continue a relationship with those who harm your well being. Those who lower your vibration by stripping you of your energy. Those who wear the mask of friend but who do not hold themselves accountable to any laws of integrity. Therefore, it is better for your growth, health, mental ease, and peace of mind, to sever ties with those offenders without giving excuses. In contrast, when you allow Qi Vampires to remain in your life, however casually, you are telling the Universe, "I want more of this. I'm surrounding myself with this, so this must feel good to me." You unwittingly cheat yourself out of happiness. The Universe provides only more of what you place importance on, and when you think about bad things because they are continually making themselves known (by your permission, I might add) then the Universe gives you more of what you allow. Conversely, when you surround yourself and place attention only upon those who serve your growth and raise you up vibrationally, more helpful, loving, joy-filled people come into your life, and there simply isn't room for Qi Vampires.
Friends, I would never pass along any wisdom I wasn't confident in from tried and true experience. Not all that long ago I was an unfortunate victim of Qi Vampires, and they had infiltrated my closest circle of "friends." It took years of compounded experiences that left me wondering "why me?" to realize that those I counted as my confidantes were no longer serving me. Every day with these Qi Vampires was some new drama, some crisis, some reason to constantly moan about their "bad luck" and complain rather than help themselves out of problems. They weren't happy at their jobs, but they weren't motivated to look for new ones or go to school to acquire the education necessary to obtain better jobs. They never seemed to have enough money to pay their bills, but they had plenty of money to throw away on things detrimental to their health and peace of mind (unhealthy food, cigarettes, alcohol, mindless "entertainment"). They were plagued with health problems, bratty children, relationships that went nowhere, etc. Its effect on my energy levels can be felt even as I simply think back to those times. I made a pledge never to feel exhausted by relationships again. If you are feeling depleted and don't have a well from which to fill back up, then what is the point of having that person in your life? I no longer have Qi Vampires plaguing me and for over a year now, I've never felt better. I want the same for you. You are cared for. You are loved. You deserve to feel at peace and reap the benefits of being connected with Beings of higher vibrations. When you witness this transformation, you'll never want to go back to the way things used to be. Now, isn't that a comforting thought? :)
Namaste and the best of the Universe's blessings to you all!